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Despite my trials and tribulations others have always identified me as a happy person. I’ve always had a knowing and understanding that I can choose to see the good that has occurred from even the most devastating of circumstances. It has positioned me to win over the hearts of friends and foes alike. But there is another side to this…I’ve also been identified as fake.
You see many people have a belief of skepticism around people who are inherently happy. I began to contemplate this. Why is it appropriate and believable to have other feelings such as sadness, anger, fear, etc, but happiness is so unbelievable that it’s deemed as being fake?
After much thought and discussion, the realization came to me that individuals believe that we are not made to be happy. It’s become part of our story. You know, the kind of stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we’re meant to be, how others perceive us. Now I found these stories to rarely be true, but they become very powerful the more we repeat them.
There is this elusive feeling to happiness for individuals today. Happiness is generally not considered a permanent state of euphoria and while it is true that it is not humanly possible to feel only one kind of emotion, there is something bigger at work here.
We are constantly focused on achieving this state as a byproduct of our external environment. The truth of our happiness is that while it can be achieved from external people and circumstances, it cannot be maintained. Outside influences are in a constant state of change. The more that you attempt to control that flux of change, the more dissatisfied you become with your circumstance.
True joy and happiness extends from the Divine core of our very being. When you are plugged into that source, happiness does exist DESPITE outside people and circumstances.
However vocal your inner happiness skeptic might be, I hope you’ll commit to doing a few things every day that will help you maintain a more positive attitude, feel more optimistic, and yes, become a happier person. This is my challenge to you…can you win over the skeptic for a little bit?
1. Focus on, capture and appreciate small positive moments in your life
Expressing gratitude has more benefits than simply to improve your mood. People who write down a few positive things about their day are healthier, more energetic, less stressed and anxious, and get better sleep.
2. Surround yourself with happier people
Happiness is contagious. One of the best ways to find happiness is to find those who know how to nurture and create their own happiness, and share it freely. Look around at your inner circle of friends and confidantes. Are they who you would like to become? Do you admire and respect them? If not, perhaps you should consider why you don’t and open your circle to new inspiration.
3. Do nice things for others
Research has shown that spending money on others makes us happier than spending money on ourselves and doing small acts of kindness increases life satisfaction.
4. Connect with nature
When you commit to doing this the benefits are vast, from improving our cognitive abilities to helping relieve the symptoms of illnesses, like depression, spending a little time in the natural world each day can brighten your entire life.
5. Spend money on experiences instead of things
It’s important to note that while money can make you happier, after your basic needs are met, it doesn’t make you that much happier. Happiness from material purchases diminishes over time, this is because after you’ve attained the item it’s value diminishes and it becomes part of your new norm, while experiences become an ingrained part of our identity. After all, we are the sum total of our experiences.
What would it mean for you to take the time to learn what true happiness looks like, for yourself? What makes you happiest of all? Just think, if you could discover your own happiness and put that into practice how much could your joy multiply?
You as an individual are wired for happiness! You are deserving of happiness! You’ve lost that ability along the way because you’re not “plugged in” to that Divine source which is the endless well of supply. It’s time make that commitment to discover how to connect to your Divine self allowing you to uncover where greater happiness awaits.